Self respect..and how to develop it

We all want to be respected by others..but we dont know how to earn that..as is said that charity begins at home so does respect..if you want to be respected..you need to respect yourself too..but having self respect is not so easy..so here are 2 most simple and

general ways by which we can learn to respect overselves:
1.Being polite- when we are polite even with those who use harsh words with us..it makes us rise us in our self esteem
2.helping without expectations-we all need each other but by helping someone with expectations of getting returns too..it is not going to boost our respect for ourselves in any ways.. for this we need to help someone who can do nothing for us..